It was a particularly trying Monday morning this morning. As I rushed around to get the kids ready, off to school, & start my day , I noticed my patients were already a little thin & it wasn’t even 8am yet. Oh boy this was gonna be a doozy!
Just then my five year old ran up to me with the shoes he did not want to wear I had set out in hand. ” I hate these, They are stupid, You’re stupid, I have the worst mom ever” (Did i mention my patients were already thin) My heart sunk as any moms would & I just did everything I could to get my son off to school with grace, patients, and with out loosing it. I managed a quick lesson on how we talk to our mommies & a good bye kiss & he was off.
Lucky for all of us after school his attitude was much better. We were making it through our day when my husband called with a need that really put a cramp in my style. I felt myself heating up & before I could even think that maybe he had a plan to his request I just wanted to give him a piece of my mind.
Standing there watching my reaction on the phone was my little sandal wearing boy. Again my heart sunk. Just as I had requested my son do something he was not too thrilled about but was in his best interest (As I had no clean socks & it was warm so sandals meant saving his new shoes from certain smelly death) had caused him to lash out, I was about to lash out at my husband in the same manner.
It was at this moment that I realized that I will never be able to teach my child to hold his tongue & think the situation out. If I don’t. The thing my husband needed from me put me out at the time but if I would have looked at the big picture I could have seen the method to his madness.
Obviously our entire family needs to realize that there is amazing power in our words, they can not be taken back, & most the time all those words take up so mush time & space that we cannot even see each other truly. It’s as if the other persons intentions are lost in a sea of rebuttals & points to be made. How did this happen? Well we are a family of humans so we are bound to screw it up pretty often! I don’t have all the answers at this time, but I do know that my home will be much more peaceful if we all learn to hold our tongue & our loved ones hearts a little closer.
All too often we ask our kids to do as we say, but they will always do as we do. So if you want to see the areas you need improvement on, just take the top five things your five year old does that bugs the heck out of you & there you go!