As Christmas approaches things start to ramp up. there are gifts to be purchased, deals to be had, programs to direct, seasonal volenteering to do, and cookies to bake, just to name a few. So when exactly is all this touchy feely tradition suppose to take place?
You know, that warm feeling that your house had (or you wished it had) during the holidays. The grandpa you could count on to fall asleep after the turkey, the mom with made that special dish each year, or that story told by your father each and EVERY season. These are the things that made the holiday special.
You might not even remember what you got the Christmas of 1986 but you surely recall uncle so and so making your night magic with an outdoor marshmallow roast. And so you want these memories for your kids. But holy cow these days it’s alot of work!
So what happens when the reality of the holiday season interferes with that calm seriene feeling? surely our moms didn’t work and they could give all their attention to things of warm baked goodness..right? ok so five kids and a part time job was kind of alot of work! Maybe they had help? No, no elves are not real! Oh, I know our moms were just taught better than us and were better equipped! No that’s for sure not it (but don’t ask your mom this question!)
While these are all plausable I think that the preasure we feel is more about our need to recreate that feeling for our kids. While this is a noble gift to try and give, we are probably already doing it. yeah, totally cool right! So put down the candy cane and step away from the Vodka bottle!
Just by us being there and being amazing moms we are creating traditions of our own. They may not be the same as yours or your husbands, but that is ok. In fact if you ask your parents most of the time you will get a shock . Come to find out those time honored memories happened on accident! That story was only read EVERY year because your litttle brother was teathing one year and your dad had to read it over and over to get him to calm down then it became a tradition when they unpacked the same story in the Christmas decorations the next year! Just like that girl that always cut the end off her roast to find out it did nothing for her roast, her grandmas pan was just too small!
So cut yourself some slack! Find something that is unique and come up with your own! You might be so busy trying to re-create that you miss an oppertunity to create one of your own. So just go with it, your kids will be thrilled! And some day when they are stressed about how to make the traditions of their family come alive to their kids you can sit back and give them the best advise you never got…… be yourself and enjoy each other that’s the best tradition of all!
Merry Christmas all you Juggling Mamas!